Chapter 5 Addendum:

I wanted to personally address Chapter 5  pg 133, 134  in the book: 

The Guidelines  for masturbation pg 134 in the book were influenced by the book: "Bringing up boys" by Dr. James Dobson 

PG. 133 The mindset section was not directly reviewed by a Pastor- as it states, that it was.   This section was added at the very end of the publishing /editing  process and this page 133  was not officially edited by a Pastor, I do apologize for this misconception. The intention was there, that is why it was stated.  

All the other parts of the book were edited by a Pastor but this was an additional section added in at the later stages of the process.      

This article was written by a Pastor 

Biblical Perspective on Sexual Purity and Masturbation

The Bible does not directly mention masturbation, so understanding its stance involves applying biblical principles related to purity, thoughts, and self-control.

Key Scriptural Principles:

1. Holiness and Purity:  

   - "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." (Philippians 4:8)  

   - This verse encourages believers to focus their minds on what is pure and noble, guarding their thoughts from lustful or sinful patterns.

2. Living for Christ in Actions and Words:  

   - "Whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him." (Colossians 3:17)  

   - Our entire lives, including how we handle desires and temptations, should honor Christ.

3. Self-Control and Disciplined Thinking:  

   - "For the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control." (Galatians 5:22-23)  

   - Exercising self-control over sexual thoughts and impulses aligns with living by the Spirit.

4. Guarding the Heart and Mind:  

   - "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."*(Proverbs 4:23)  

   - Protect your thoughts and desires to prevent them from leading you into sin.

Practical Applications Based on Scripture:

- Focus on God's Goodness:  

  Instead of dwelling on lustful thoughts, meditate on God's love, grace, and the blessings He has given. Recognize that sexual intimacy is a gift designed for marriage (Hebrews 13:4), and reflect on that purity.

- Avoid Temptation:  

  Stay away from media, images, or environments that may trigger lustful thoughts or behaviors. Be proactive in creating boundaries.

- Renew Your Mind:  

  Replace lustful or obsessive thoughts with Scripture and positive, God-honoring activities (Romans 12:2).

- Pray for Self-Control:  

  Ask God daily for strength to resist temptation and to develop the fruit of self-control (1 Corinthians 10:13).

- Accountability and Community:  

  Seek trusted Christian friends or mentors who can support you in maintaining purity and accountability.

Addressing Guilt and Shame:

- The Bible assures believers of God's forgiveness through Jesus Christ (1 John 1:9). When guilt or shame arise, remember that Christ’s sacrifice offers forgiveness and renewal.  

- Forgiveness is a gift freely offered to those who repent and turn to God. Do not let guilt or shame inhibit your relationship with Him.

The Four Causes of Concern:

1. Divine Condemnation: 

   - God’s standard is holiness. When we fall short, we can seek forgiveness through Jesus and pursue repentance.

2. Obsessive Behavior:  

   - If thoughts become compulsive, seek help through prayer, accountability, and possibly professional guidance.

3. Pornographic Materials:  

   - Avoid exposure to anything that fuels lustful thoughts. Protect your eyes and mind.

4. Substitution for Healthy Sexual Relationships:  

   - Recognize that sex is designed for marriage (Hebrews 13:4). Properly channel desires within the boundaries God established.

In summary, while the Bible does not explicitly address masturbation, it emphasizes living a life of purity, controlling one’s thoughts, and honoring God with our bodies and minds. By focusing on biblical truth, seeking God's strength, and practicing self-control, believers can pursue spiritual purity in line with God's design and principles.